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Guide to Life—How to Get Along With Subordinates

Hello brothers and sisters of Loving Stage,
I have a question to ask you: I’m a supervisor in a sales company. Every time the sales I was in charge of didn’t increase or I was punished because of the mistakes my staff had made, I would become very depressed, and then vent my dissatisfaction on them, or even punish them in warning. In this way, gradually, there were great conflicts and estrangement between us. Sometimes, I felt I was a bit overdoing it, but I always couldn’t control myself, not knowing what to do to solve this problem. Facing these problems and difficulties in daily life, I often felt helpless and confused. Could you tell me how to free myself from the life of pain and troubles?
Sincerely yours,
Worries of the spirit

After learning about your problem, I have the same feeling as you, because I was once as helpless and confused as you are. However, after I believed in God, all my troubles and suffering were gradually resolved. In the following, I would like to share my experience with you in the hope that it can bring you some help.

I was once a store leader of a designer clothes store and in charge of three branches. The company set up a system of reward and punishment to increase sales. If I couldn’t finish the monthly sales set by the manager, or if any complaints were lodged against my staff, then I would be rebuked or fined. Every time I was fined, I was extremely angry and then vented my anger on my staff. For example: Every word of what I said to them contained thorns; if they made a small mistake, I would fine them. As a result, they were all offended by me and started sulking, wanting to resign. Then, I had to treat them to barbeques to please them so that I could maintain my relationships with them. Living in these complicated human relationships, I often felt helpless and weary both in body and mind.

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Due to these unpleasant incidents in my work, I often sighed and groaned, and even vented emotions on my family. As long as what my mother said didn’t conform to my will, I would lose my temper with her and grouse, often bringing harm to her. But, after that, I felt regretful and hated myself, unable to figure out why I became like this. Hence, I often lamented: “Why are people’s lives so painful?” Seeing that I lived in depression and pain, my mother was worried about me and then preached the gospel to me, asking me to believe in God. She said, “As long as you read more of God’s words, all your troubles will be resolved.” At first, all I could think about was making more money, so I often refused to accept the gospel based on the excuse of my busy work. Later, my mother testified God’s name and read God’s words to me many times, and told me: “God’s word is the truth, the way, and the life. His word can resolve all our troubles and suffering.” Hearing her sincere words, I decided to believe in God. Through reading God’s words, I found the root of my troubles and suffering, as well as the way to solve these problems.

God’s words say, “Where did the pain of birth, death, illness and old age present throughout the life of man come from? Because of what did people first have these things? Did man have these things when they were first created? They didn’t, did they? So where did these things come from? These things came after man was tempted by Satan and their flesh became degenerate, such as the pain of the flesh, the troubles and emptiness of the flesh and the extreme wretchedness of the world. Satan began to torment man after it had corrupted them. Man then became more and more degenerate, … and their suffering became more and more severe. Man felt more and more the emptiness, the tragedy and the inability to go on living of the world, and they felt less and less hope for the world. So this suffering was brought on man by Satan, and it only came after man had been corrupted by Satan and became degenerate.

From God’s words, I knew this: In the beginning, after God created our ancestors, Adam and Eve, they were put into the Garden of Eden, living under God’s care and protection without any pain and troubles. At that time, the relationship between God and man, and the relationship between man and man were close and harmonious. After Adam and Eve were tempted by Satan into eating the fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and betrayed God, Satan’s poisons were planted within man. When God asked why they rebelled against His words and ate the fruit, they began to shift the blame, unwilling to proactively admit their own mistakes. Just like this, mankind has lost the original innocence and been full of Satan’s poisons, such as: “Every man for himself, and the devil take the hindmost,” “Power is gained to be used before it’s gone,” “We will not attack unless we are attacked,” and so on. So we become more and more arrogant and conceited, selfish and contemptible: When our interests are threatened or infringed upon, in order to protect our personal profits, we begin to conspire and scheme against each other, which brings unending conflicts among us humans. Due to living according to Satan’s laws, we can’t get along with our colleagues, relatives, friends, or even our family. Living in such complicated human relationships, we really suffer an unspeakable amount, and are unable to break free from them. Consequently, we have more and more troubles. All in all, all our suffering is brought by Satan and it only came after we betrayed God and strayed away from Him, losing His care and protection and falling under Satan’s domain. If we don’t believe in God and worship God, we’ll have no power to free ourselves from such suffering and troubles. Since we humans all come from God, we should return to God’s side, worship Him, do according to His requirements, gain the discernment about Satan’s evil substance under the nourishment and sustenance of God’s words, and no longer live by Satan’s thoughts and views. Only in this way can we get God’s care and protection and live in the light.

After understanding these things, I had hope in my heart. In the following days, I paid attention to reading more of God’s words, quieting my heart before God when encountering things, and putting God’s words into practice consciously. In the past, when in contact with the staff in our store, I would become enraged with them once what they said or did was discordant with my will, or they didn’t listen to me. But now, I am no longer like the way I was. I remember that one time, a customer made a complaint about my staff Xiaoxin because of her bad service attitude, which caused the manager to dock my bonus. At that time, I was very angry, and really wanted to vent my anger on Xiaoxin. But I started to have second thoughts: “Since I have believed in God, facing such an environment, I shouldn’t lose my temper like before. If I do like that, my living out can’t glorify God’s name.” Then I prayed silently in my heart, asking God to protect my heart so that I wouldn’t live by my corrupt dispositions.

After prayer, God’s words occurred to me, “Cruel, brutal mankind! The conniving and intrigue, the jostling with each other, the scramble for reputation and fortune, the mutual slaughter—when will it ever end? God has spoken hundreds of thousands of words, yet no one has come to their senses. They act for the sake of their families, and sons and daughters, for their careers, prospects, status, vanity, and money, for the sake of clothes, for food and the flesh—whose actions are truly for the sake of God?” “You are a Christian; you are a follower of God. When Satan tempts you, when it provokes your hot blood, what weapon do you use to face this issue? You use whatever you have at your disposal,[a] or your corrupt disposition to face off with him. Satan is hoping to reel you in, and you stupidly allow yourself to be reeled in. Then Satan is just thrilled. It has occupied your heart, and has stolen away your time and your thoughts. You cannot come in front of God. You have a belly full of bile, full of grievances and resentment. At that time is the truth useful? It’s not useful anymore. … What is the consequence of people’s hot blood? It’s falling into Satan’s web. … Once you fall into the web of disputes, your life will become exhausting, and coming in front of God will become difficult.

The enlightenment of God’s words made me suddenly see the light: Satan’s intention of corrupting us mankind is to make us fight each other for fame, status, money, and profit, and lose the normal relationship with people. It wants to make our minds disturbed and occupied by these things, and make our heart far from God and unable to be quiet before Him, so that we live under its domain, unable to manifest God and glorify God. Today, I was angry with my staff and wanted to lose my temper with her; wasn’t that because I was dominated by my selfish and despicable corrupt satanic dispositions? Because of the complaint about my staff from a customer, my bonus was docked, which damaged my personal interests. So I had no tolerance and patience, even wanting to lose my temper with Xiaoxin. I didn’t have the likeness of a real human being at all. Normal humanity includes tolerance, patience, and forgiveness; even if others damage our interests, we should also forgive them. Since I have believed in God, I should rely on God’s words to conduct myself, and live out the likeness of man to satisfy Him. After understanding God’s will, I was willing to obey God and practice the truth. Then my anger gradually faded and I could treat Xiaoxin properly and speak heart-to-heart with her. Xiaoxin was very astonished and said to me: “Madam, I feel that now you aren’t the same as before. In the past, when encountering this thing of today, you were certainly enraged with me. And ordinarily you had too much of a temper, and didn’t make allowance for our difficulties. But now you can understand our situation, patiently help us, and pour out your heart to us. You are quite different from before and I like you now very much.” After hearing that, I thought: “It’s not that I’m good, but it is God’s words that achieve all the results on me.” I kept giving thanks to God in my heart, feeling it really so great to live by God’s words. Although this time my interests were damaged, my heart had joy, liberation, peace, and steadiness, which the enjoyment of wealth and materials could never be exchanged for.

Through this experience, I saw that God’s words could really resolve my problem and suffering. When putting God’s words into practice, I no longer lived in corrupt disposition feeling miserable. Through continuously reading God’s words, and fellowshiping about the truth in meetings, I came to understand some truths. When expressing my corruption pertaining to what happened to me, I would consciously pray to God, find the right path to practice in God’s words, and then act according to His words. Gradually I had a normal relationship with others, and my pain in my heart decreased a lot.

Through this experience, I saw that God’s words could really resolve my problem and suffering. When putting God’s words into practice, I no longer lived in corrupt disposition feeling miserable. Through continuously reading God’s words, and fellowshiping about the truth in meetings, I came to understand some truths. When expressing my corruption pertaining to what happened to me, I would consciously pray to God, find the right path to practice in God’s words, and then act according to His words. Gradually I had a normal relationship with others, and my pain in my heart decreased a lot.

Worries of the spirit, I don’t know if my experience can give you some help. I truly hope that you are able to follow God and live within God’s love. As long as you rely on God’s words to live, all your troubles and suffering will be resolved. If you still have some questions, welcome to communicate with us. Thank God!

Truly yours,

He Yike of Loving Stage

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